EP. 26- MOM HACKS- NEXT LEVEL weight loss for moms, moms-to-be, & ANY busy women that struggles to find time to take her weight loss to THE NEXT LEVEL.

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The guest is Kayla Tyburski and we talk Mom Hacks! We met through a business program and I feel in love with her stuff. I love her brand, her message and her Instagram stories. Kayla is a mom and an online fitness coach to moms, so it is so valuable to have her on the podcast.

Kayla firmly believes that you cannot serve from an empty vessel. Don’t let being a mom become your excuse for not being at the level you want it to be. It’s about strategy and commitment and thinking differently, focusing on how you can make it happen instead of on the excuses.

Having children isn’t an excuse to not workout or eat right. It’s a reason to do those things. Choose to look at being a mom as your reason, your motivation, your driving factor. Let it be the fuel.

There are two main excuses Kayla hears from moms:

1. I don’t have time to work out
2. I don’t have time to cook healthy meals

Notice the common factor?

But I don’t have time!

Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or a full-time working mom, every mom says they don’t have time.

Is this a truth?

Or is this something that you told yourself so that you can say that it’s some other outside factor that’s controlling this?

Kayla doesn’t have any more time than any of you moms who may be listening. She has the same exact 24 hours in a day. But what she prioritizes spending her time on looks completely different.

What are your priorities?

It’s a way of thinking. “I don’t have time” is one way you could think. Or, you can give your brain very powerful questions instead. Ask yourself, “How am I going to choose to prioritize my time?”

Own your choices and your priorities

It’s totally ok for you to say, “You know what? It’s not a priority for me to work out. There are other things that I would rather spend my time on.” That’s OK.

Are there benefits to working out? Sure. But it’s not everyone’s main passion.

Like I always say, you don’t have to lose your last 10 pounds. You don’t have to lose the weight. You don’t have to do anything. But if you really want it and if you really want to go to that next level—whatever your next level is—then you’re going to have to make certain choices because you want that thing. So just remind yourself you want this.

One client of Kayla’s finally admitted that the reason she was eating out a lot wasn’t because she didn’t have time to cook. It was because she actually hated cooking. Now that’s something we can work on!

When you are honest about the issue—and it isn’t really about having enough time—then you can figure out how to eat out in a way that still reaches your goals, use a meal prep/meal delivery service, or plan meals so you don’t have to cook every night.

You have to get really real and then find some strategies to work with that. “I don’t have time” is an easy way out. It takes the blame off yourself so you can be a victim in that situation and not take responsibility. It’s not empowering, and it’s also not the truth.

Ask creative questions to get resourceful results

Kayla has some great hacks for moms to help them get results. First and foremost, get yourself some good support. People aren’t going to realize if you need help unless you tell them. You do need to ask for it and that doesn’t mean you’re failing or that you’re weak.

As I always say, you have to get creative. Here are some powerful questions Kayla suggests that you can use to help you get resourceful about getting the support you need to reach your goals:

• What can I delegate?
• What can I have someone help me with?
• What can I delegate to my husband? (because you’re a team!)
• How can I get better at communicating some of the things I need taken off my workload so I have a little bit of time for me and more mental energy?
• Who else in my life can I ask for help?
• What else can I offer for that person in return? E.g. Can we do a kid swap?
• What could I be doing more efficiently?
• How can I kill two birds with one stone? What can I multitask?

Activity does not equal effectiveness

A great hack Kayla suggests is to get as efficient as possible, and multitask where you can. Some women think “I don’t have time to work out because I don’t have an hour and a half to give at the gym every day.” But you can condense your workouts to be half an hour or 45 minutes and still get amazing results.

If you feel stuck between cleaning the house and spending time with your children, there are ways that you can get your kids in on the work around the house. Then you’re spending time with them and helping them learn these self-help skills. You also instill so much pride in them for being a helper with you.

If you throw something in the slow cooker, take half of it and throw it in a freezer bag and lay flat in your freezer. Get a stash going so you have a meal to pull out and just warm up for your family when it is a soccer night and you’re running all over. That way you can still work towards your goals even when you’re busy.

Cut the crap

Part of being efficient and effective is figuring out where you’re wasting time mindlessly, like watching TV or scrolling Facebook. Maybe you can do that on Saturday evening as your downtime, but don’t spend a half an hour to an hour doing those things every day.

Another hack is to work on pairing the necessary with something enjoyable. You can listen to a podcast or watch Netflix while you’re cooking, or clean the house while listening to music.

Get it done first thing in the morning

When you’re a mom, what you have planned for your day is not always what happens. The hack for this is to make yourself your first priority for the day and be done with it, instead of spending the rest of the day trying to figure out when you’re going to get time, and then feeling frustrated that you can’t make it happen.

Have a routine and some structure for yourself. There there’s a time of the day that it is scheduled and you do it. It’s non-negotiable. Find what’s practical for you with whatever your life looks like at that time.

Get strategic and make a game plan

In sports, to win a game, you have to score. You can play defense all day but unless you play offense, you don’t actually win the game. With your goals, you have to have a plan to be successful. Having a game plan is playing offense. You can fly by the seat of your pants all day but you’ll be constantly playing defense. Plan for your success.

Sometimes you just have to suck it up, buttercup

If this is something that you really want to then you’re going to have to prioritize it. Stop being a victim and saying you don’t have time. Accept that it’s not all rainbows and sunshine and that you have to make some sort of investment to get anything that you want.

Sometimes our excuses are our brain’s way of trying to make us stay in this comfort zone and protect us. And so some people avoid doing things that are slightly uncomfortable because they get stuck on the pain part and they forget that there’s a return on investment here that is going to bring you a lot of pleasure in the long run. Pick the long-term desire over the immediate gratification and short-term comfort.

Remember, acknowledging that it’s your choice is so much more empowering than saying, “I don’t have time.” This is what you’re choosing to create or to invest your time in right now. Take whatever is useful about these hacks Kayla has shared and start to really change the results in your life today.

Where to find Kayla:

You can check out Kayla’s Instagram @kaylavashti or her website www.vareitybyvasthi.org

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