EP. 19- Losing this weight- won’t happen by accident.
Remember The Thought Model:
Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings drive your actions, your actions get your results.
Ask yourself, “How do I need to be feeling to take the actions to get the results that I want to get?” and “If I want to feel that way, how do I need to think?”
There’s a slight but powerful difference between inspired and motivated and committed.
There are some moments where the feeling of commitment—which isn’t always happy, inspired, motivated—is needed because you do stuff even though you’re not always in the mood.
The decision to be committed is absolutely essential. That feeling that you intentionally create, will carry you through even when things are not as easy or fun, or you’re not feeling inspired and motivated.
I have moments when I’m tired. I’m human. You are human. It happens.
There are some tools that really help when she’s not feeling great.
First, be really honest with where you’re at.
Second, don’t say yes to things out of obligation. Say no if you need to rest.
Thirdly, make empowered decisions. Own them rather than make choices from a place of feeling sorry for yourself.
Using these tools can help you work through this stuff and hopefully prevent you from getting to the place of overwhelm.
Eventually, though, it’s decision time. You have to ask yourself, “either I’m too tired, or I’m committed.”
One of the keys is being really honest with yourself about where you’re at and what is the best decision for you now. Also being honest with yourself about your level of commitment.
Committed is a feeling that is really important. Be honest with yourself.
How committed are you?
There is no right or wrong. Honesty is key in making these decisions.
What is important to you?
What are you committed to?
What will you or won’t you compromise your health and well-being at this point in time?
What are your priorities?
Knowing the answers to these questions helps me manage when I’m feeling tired. It’s how I can still make the best decision for myself.
Progress is not an accident.
One of the keys to getting the results that you’re looking for is to look at someone else who already has what you want and has already gotten the results that you want to get.
Stirling Griffen is somebody who has already achieved what I want to achieve in business. Recently, on his social media page, he posted this:
“You see, I’ve realized, progress is not an accident. It happens because someone decided their life was going to get better. Someone decided no matter what, they were going to build their business or move their body or create their dream life somehow. They decided progress was their future. Progress is not an accident, it requires a decision.”
If your goal is to lose the last 10 pounds, remember you don’t have to lose this weight. It’s not helpful when you tell yourself you should. When you tell yourself the truth—that you really want to lose this weight—then that’s empowering. Progress is not an accident, it happens because you decide your life will be better.
I am getting to a level of fitness that she has never been at before. I decided this was something I wanted to progress and it’s not happening by accident! I have to be diligent, consistent, persistent, precise, committed and patient to get there.
Think about it for yourself. If this is something you want, will you be diligent, consistent, persistent, precise, committed and patient?
Learn from others
My old self, the one that struggled with weight, had a ‘poor me’ attitude a lot of the time. I didn’t realize it, and now knows I was just doing the best that I could. Just like you are doing the best that you can right now.
Have some compassion for yourself, and for others. Learn and understand.
The old Brendita felt very sorry for herself. She thought it was easy for others. This prevented her from learning and understanding from others instead.
One of the ways that you can really learn from someone who is where you want to go or who has achieved what you want to achieve, is to be super fascinated and curious by them. Watch them. What do they do? How do they talk? How do they think? You can observe, be fascinated, learn.
It is not easier for them. They dedicate hours every week. They’re consistent and patient and they’ve been committed to their process for years, day after day after day, to get the result they have.
Progress is no accident.
You truly can achieve any outcome that you want, but the question is, are you committed to it no matter how long and how much dedication it takes?
To get the progress and gains that you want at the next level, you also have to increase your level of dedication, commitment, consistency, patience for the process.
Doing whatever you’ve been doing isn’t going to get you a new result. Change what you’re doing. Progress is also not a straight line perfectly upward incline.
You’re going to have to up your commitment, your consistency, your dedication, your precision and your patience for the process.